Have you noticed Adulting classes popping up at libraries?
Classes that teach practical skills that use to be taught at home or in schools. Simple things like doing laundry or balancing a budget.
A new generation of skills.
Today’s teenager or young adult can surf the web, take amazing Instagram pictures and tell you how they are going to afford to travel the world without a full time job.
But can they balance their checking account and do their laundry? Now don’t get me wrong some young adults can do all of the above including cook a four course meal.
Every generation seems to have skills that slip to the way side.
Raising self sufficient men and women.
As a parent I think it is our job to fill in the skill set and teach our children to be self sufficient. I can tell you when my son goes off to college he will be doing his own laundry.
None of this laundry service drop off stuff. If he can make the dirty laundry and program his PS4 he can learn to do laundry.
What about cooking and cleaning? I know that there are a billion lists all over the internet telling you at what age your child should be doing what and helping around the house.
As parents it is our job to teach our children the skills they need.
What should they know?
Each parent will have a different answer for this question. In our house being aware of others’ needs and participating in the home equally is important.
You will find my son and my husband both doing laundry and cooking. They both help with the cleaning, after some asking.
Let’s face it raising children is a full time job and exhausting.
They need food, shelter and all the basics plus they need boundaries and structure. They need reminding of tasks and notes that sometimes life isn’t always grand.
But they also need to know that their future husband or wife will not be picking up after them, cooking, cleaning and working a full time job. They need to help too.
I will and I am proud of the days when my son asks if I need anything and my husband comes home with fresh coffee.
I am also proud that the laundry gets folded and put away, beds are made and Mom isn’t running around crazy after an 8 hour work day asking and repeating what I need help with.
What skills do you think every young adult should know?
I think that every young person should have some money skills and know how to balance a budget. Because their future debt or wealth depends on it.
I also wish this was taught in school because even some parents struggle with this. There should be some foundation of money skill in any college or work bound person.
Cooking and cleaning skills are a must. I am not talking a four course meal and I am meaning more that macaroni and cheese.
Young adults should be able to follow a simple recipe and cook a healthy meal. Yes, Moms kitchen is always open but it doesn’t deliver to the next city or state.
Laundry, now when I got married I had to teach my husband how to do laundry. Every young adult should know how to do laundry and know that you don’t mix reds and whites.
Changing a car tire and knowing what to do in a power out situation are good skills to have as well.
The skills you need to know will also vary on your location. My husband needed to know how to chop wood and drive in the snow growing up. Where I learned to sew, cook and bake.
Another good skill every person should have is one of compassion and communication. Your partner in life is exactly that, your partner. You share life, money, chores, joys and so much more.
Communicate your needs and respect the needs of others. Work together, celebrate each other and support each other.
Some great Adulting books for reference:
Raise your children to be self sufficient.
Provide your children with the skills they need to succeed both academically and personally. Yes, at times it may be hard. They may need reminding and they may need teaching.
But it is worth every bit when they can sufficiently and successfully support themselves.
Have a great day,